10 KICK-ASS Style & Life Lessons Learned In The Military


10 Style & Life Tips From The Military
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So, this last month I was back in San Diego visiting some old military buddies, and I
went to Marine Corps Recruiting Depot to watch a graduation and I can tell you it was motivating
to watch those devil dogs on that graduation day go out there and put on a show. And, it got me thinking I wrote down you know
I need to create another video talking about the style and the life tips that I took from
the Marine Corps and I think any man is taken from the military that you can use to become
a better you. Are you ready, guys? Let’s do it. So, the first lesson I want to share with
you is take the time to master the basics. So we’re there at that graduation, I mentioned
that it’s 10 weeks long Marine Corps boot camp and my wife is like, oh, that’s not too
long to learn everything you need to know. And, I’m laughing because, of course, you
don’t learn everything you need to know. They basically learned how to make their beds,
how to have the lingo that you need to be a United States Marine, but when you start
off as a private you know basically nothing. And then, you’re going to go to your first,
you know, station that they’re going to train you up a bit more, but, again, this is all
basic training. A little bit more advanced training, but it’s
when you show up to your first duty station and you talk and you work with people that
are more experienced with you they’re going to show you how really things operate. This is where you learn and this applies to
everything in life. So many people go to college so many people
start to dress it better and they think, oh, I’ve learned everything I need to learn. That is not the case. Life is continuous education and if you’re
not doing that you are going to fall behind, you are not going to be successful, you’re
not going to be able to achieve your dreams. So, when it applies to style when you start
getting dressing better. Guess what? Okay, you’re better than 95% of guys out there,
that’s pretty easy, but can you go up to the next level and then can you start to teach
others because that’s what you learned is that it’s about passing on that knowledge. And, again, guys, don’t think that college
don’t think that your advanced degree makes you better or makes you smarter than others. No, it’s that continuing education it’s every
day trying to be a bit better than you were the day before. Tip number two, work hard and be proud of
who you are right now. So, the coolest part is during the graduation,
the commanding officer asks all the privates a question, and they sound off and it scares
people in the audience. And, I love it because these guys these young
men are so proud and, yet, they’re the lowest rank in the United States Marine Corps, but
it doesn’t matter, they are now Marines. And, I know so many of you guys are struggling
or working hard, you just started to dress better, you just made me found my videos,
you are, you know, starting off in life, you have may be only a few months experience,
you feel like you know nothing, but here’s the deal is that we all start there. Every commanding general started off as a
lieutenant, every sergeant major of the Marine Corps started off as a private, and that is
the amazing thing is the potential. And so, when you’re getting started understand,
yes, you’d like to have more experience be able to — be able to know how to do everything,
but understand those guys that are 20, 30 years ahead of you, they would give anything
to be in your shoes to be able to start again and to have the whole world in front of them. Next up, let’s look at the importance of a
team of not being one-dimensional. So, if you go to a Marine Corps graduation
what you’re going to see is that the navy is there in force because guess what? The navy they take care of all the — I mean
they’re the corpsman, they’re the chaplains, they give us rides around the world and anyone
that’s going to be anything in life whether you want to be the best dressed guy whether
you want to be the most successful man you’re not going to do it by yourself, you have to
surround yourself with other people that are going to lift you up. If you want to level up your style, there’s
only so much you can pick up watching my videos, reading books. You need to actually surround yourself with
people that can give you feedback, clothiers that can help build the clothing, guys that
know shoes to be able to well round out yourself, go out find these forums where guys to talk
about watches when they talk about fragrances. That’s why I have no problem recommending
guys like Jeremy Fragrance, recommending people who many people view as my competitors like
Aaron Marino, Jose Zuniga, Raphael over The Gentleman’s Gazette. There were so many — so many other great
guys, guys, that I could reference you guys too. I think you get the point. It is about surrounding yourself with other
men and women that can lift you up to the next level. The next lesson I want to share with you is
the right clothing can make you look amazing. Now, for these young marines, they’re wearing
these uniforms that fit their bodies in the best shape of their lives they just look amazing. And, understand that you’ve got to uniform
as well. I don’t know what it is for your particular
industry and the message you want to send, but I know for a lot of guys a suit is their
suit of armor. This is something that you can wear a jacket
and a pair of trousers made from the same fabric. It will make you look taller, make you look
leaner, make you look more trustworthy, more attractive. All these are great things that you want to
do especially if you’re in sales, if you’re a consultant, if you’re looking to start your
company, go into a bank looking to get a loan. But, let’s say that’s not you. Well, guess what? Put on a leather jacket, a suede jacket, put
on something that’s going to build up your shoulders something that’s going to slim you
up something maybe more a monochromatic outfit a dark jacket a dark shirt with dark trousers. [0:05:07]
Again, what I love about menswear is there were so many things that you can wear and
put on your body to hide all the imperfections most of us have, but understand what your
body type is. Understand what clothing is going to make
you look like a million bucks and love everything you wear. Gents, the clothing you wear affects your
confidence, it affects how other people perceive you and how you perceive yourself. Wear the right clothing for the right situation
and you’re more likely to succeed. Next up, let’s talk about how the details
matter. When you look at a man in uniform you will
notice everything is in its place and every detail has been paid attention to. So, they call it the fruit salad. It’s basically all the medals and ribbons
a marine or a navy officer wears on his chest. Point is is they are in a specific order and
every metal there has a meaning. In fact, if you’re wearing a medal which you
did not earn, guess what? You’re going to get kicked out of the military,
you’re going to get court-martialed, you could go to jail for that — that small detail is
that important. And, this is something when it comes down
to everything a man does. This applies to your clothing, this applies
to your work. When people look at a marine they can tell
a guy squared away in the Marine Corps by the way his uniform is pressed, by the way
that he carries himself the way it fits. And a lot of people say, well, how does this
apply to the work he does? Well, it does apply because I can tell if
he pays attention to his uniform, most likely his rifle is not going to have rust in it
because he will have cleaned his rifle as well. In fact, he would do that before he took care
of his uniform. The same applies at work and the way you dress. If you are very sloppy, you don’t care about
your appearance, I get it. You may say that’s not really important, but
if you don’t make your bed, I can assume that you don’t clean your dishes. And, if you don’t clean your dishes, I can
assume that you don’t really clean your bathroom and I’m not going to want to be your roommate. The same thing applies in business. If you do not look the part, I don’t want
to be your business partner because I’m assuming on a lot of other things you’re not going
to do what needs to be done what I consider to be the bare minimum. And this is the hidden message with the way
we dress. It sends the signal of how we do or do not
pay attention to the details. Next up, I want to talk about practicing perfection
and the importance of practicing everything you do. So, if you want to dress sharp, you don’t
just wake up one day and start to dress better. If you want to start wearing a hat, and I
think every man would look great in a hat. The point is you don’t just wear it one day
because you’re not going to have the confidence if you’ve never worn a hat. You practice wearing that hat. You wear it around the house where no one
notices where you just kind of get a feeling for it. And then all the sudden, you start building
up the confidence and you start to feel better about it, then you start to actually not even
notice it and it becomes a second skin it becomes something you love. And this is about dressing sharp. So many guys get started and then they abandon
it because they tried to do too much too quickly. No. Practice perfection practice taking a step
in the right direction. Maybe starting to wear that nicer jacket you
know you’re going to get compliments on, wear that fragrance that, yeah, you know is something
that, you know, you’re not used to wearing a fragrance. Your wife may say something, she may not even
like it, but you love the fragrance yourself, so you wear it at the office. The point is practice perfection, don’t just
practice because if you practice, practice makes permanent. You want to practice perfecting yourself becoming
the best man you can be. The next point is I want you to understand
there is always a dress code. So, at this graduation, all the marines are
in there Charlie’s there’s a few marines here that they’re in different uniforms, maybe
they came from off the base, but in general there was a protocol. Understand at work they may say there’s no
dress code, but there is. There is a culture, there is a way that people
and they have in their mind an idea of what a success is. And you want to be thinking for whatever profession
you have for whatever you do, what is that vision of success and dress to it. Now, you don’t want to go overboard here. If you are a sacker at a grocery store and
you want to run the entire grocery stores throughout the United States, you don’t probably
want to start wearing a suit. But, you can dress nice, you can wear clothing
that fits you. Maybe you’ll even bring in a bow tie. You’ll be a little bit eccentric, but guess
what? You know that you want to dress well. You wear the bow tie because it stays out
of the way, it just makes you look friendlier. And people remember you and you become known
as that guy that’s going around sacking groceries that is just so friendly and is on his way
to bigger and greater things. That’s a good reputation especially when you’re
16, 17, 18 years old just getting started. The point is understand that people make judgments
and that there is always a dress code there’s always a uniform that needs to be worn to
be able to send the signal you want to send. [0:09:55]
Now, let’s talk about rank and the military this is really clear we’re very upfront about
the way the system works. You’ve got officer, you’ve got enlisted, and
within each of these categories you’ve got variations of them. In general, anyone on the enlisted side will
first salute an officer not because they’re better it’s simply the protocol it is the
courtesy that is extended to the rank. On the officer side, you’ve got second lieutenant,
first lieutenant, captain, major. So, a second lieutenant will then, you know,
he’s going to salute pretty much any of the other officers above him and you’re always
saluting the person that has the higher rank. Now, understand, in the civilian world, those
ranks do exist, but they’re not as upfront about it. There is this — and I talked about this earlier,
there’s an idea of what a success is and when a man dresses to a higher rank, he is initially
afforded the respect that goes with that higher rank. So, if you look the part of a general, if
you look the part of a lieutenant colonel, guess what? You’re going to be treated with respect. Now, in the military and it’s the same in
the civilian world, if you look the part, but then you betray those expectations because
you’re a bad leader because, you know what? You’re actually an idiot, guess what? People are going to talk behind your back
they’re going to maybe stop, you know, saluting you as much. They’re going to find ways to kind of undermine
you. But the thing is is I want you — why would
you shoot yourself in the foot and not look the part? Quick story. I remember I was sick on Naval Air Station
Corpus Christi and I went to the doctor I had put on my uniform. I was in a hurry and I was kind of surprised
these guys walked by me and they did — they just looked at me they didn’t even give me
a salute. They actually looked at me kind of aggressively
and I didn’t think anything of it. Walking through, I – then, I did not get
saluted again right in front of the hospital. I’m like, “What is going on?” But, again, I’m sick I’m not feeling well. And I’m sitting there and I take off my blouse
and I look I don’t have any rank I forgot to put my first lieutenant bars on. And, of course, nobody knew who I was and
they thought I was a private. So, I’m glad I didn’t pass an officer who’d
start yelling at me. That would have been funny, probably made
a better story. Point is is that these ranks do exist. People do make judgment calls based off how
you dress, so you might as well look the part of the higher ranking officer, the higher
ranking enlisted man, so that you’re treated with respect initially. Now, this next point was really hammered home
when I met up with my buddies who I hadn’t seen for 15 years and I was surprised what
they remembered about me. Now, when you’re trying to make some things
happen especially in the Marine Corps, it’s all about mission accomplishment. It’s about going out there and getting the
job done. And, oftentimes in work, in school, we fall
into this and we don’t treat people with respect because we’re just trying to get done what
needs to get done, we’re being a man. But, guys, when I talked with these guys about
what they remembered about me, it was that it was my character. It was the stories they had about how I took
care of my marines, how I was a great person to work with, how I always — you know I wasn’t
the smartest marine. I wasn’t — I definitely was not the most
efficient or effective adjutant. I came in a bit soured initially because I’d
been a fallen angel. I was basically in a training accident I had
to get out of flying jets. And I just — it was my dream to fly jets
and all of a sudden, I’m in the infantry I’m an adjutant within the infantry. But, I tried to make the best of it. And I had a great executive officer major,
you know, actually at the time he was a major, now, he got out as a Col. Lee. You know I talked to Lt. Thomas, he was our
doc when we deployed over, you know, to Iraq and Kuwait and did all you know. I’m talking with these guys and they’re like,
you know I remember this about you. You were a good person, you always were there,
you’re always trying to make things happen. I could count on you. Understand, gentlemen, your character and
the shadow of that character your reputation, that is what you always want to be thinking
about. Yes, it’s important to get the job done. Yes, it’s important to meet the numbers and
to make things, but never sacrifice the human beings the people and treat them with respect. It’s funny and it’s almost sad the people
that we talked about that we didn’t have the highest opinion of that we never stayed in
touch with that we, you know, it’s like, well, because honestly they were assholes and they
were a bit toxic. And, yes, they maybe had some great performance
reviews and being able to accomplish mission, but the marines under them, they had no respect
for them because they actually — I mean they wanted to [frag?] them. I mean, well, they – no, maybe not that
bad. But, I think you guys get the point. You want to be a servant leader. You want to be that leader you want to be
that lion that’s willing to die for the pride and the pride is therefore willing to follow
you into anything. And if you can be that kind of leader who
leads by example who puts others before him and you apply this to everything you do, guys,
you’re going to be in great shape. Now, I know I could have covered a lot more
points, but, guys, I’ve got this video right here, ten tips I learned from the Marine Corps
when it comes to style thing. I talk about style hacks that I picked up
in the Marine Corps. Go check out this video, guys, I go into a
lot more detail. [0:14:48] End of Audio

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